That is the secret. Not to try.
Because when you do, you might actually achieve something.
Only then you would realize how little it meant for you.
The desire to have something, by far, exceeds the pleasure of actually having it. Especially when you had to earn it. This means tears, blood and sweat.
This means you have paid the price, in full.
This is why we all dream about winning the lottery. Some of us do more than just dreaming. Some of us actually buy lottery tickets and pray to their ancient God.
Imagine how much fun you can actually have with a million dollar you’ve just won in a game of luck vs. a million dollar you had to earn by working hard and making smart investments. Most people would never know the difference; because most people would never win the lottery and most people would never make a million dollar.
The things we lose in the fire.
That’s why you shouldn’t try.
Instead you dream and you wait.
You can’t chase eternity. Eternity would come to you if you were chosen.
There is a mysterious force in the universe making things happen . . or not happen.
Growing up, I was a victim of the narrative fallacy. My mind had to create structures to make sense of a bizzaro world. The first trap is causality; Cause and Effect.
That things happen because there is a logical and sensible reason why they have happened. It is only our inept and inability to process information that sometimes we can’t fully comprehend the causality principle in action.
However, the older I become, the less structure I encounter. It’s like the world is governed by magic, luck or randomness, and not by the laws of physics as I have once believed.
We all create narratives on why we have earned what we have accomplished (hard work, intelligence, relentlessness) or what we haven’t accomplished (bad luck, God’s plan, circumstances). Eventually, it is all the same. What happens just happens.
In other words, it is what it is.
There are no ultimate consequences or a master plan. It’s merely timing, opportunities and luck – or lack thereof!
We aren’t responsible for most of what happens in our lives.
The ones who made it were destined to do so.
They didn’t chose it. They think they did, but that’s another narrative fallacy. A bedtime story they tell themselves to fall asleep at night.
So don’t try.
And if it doesn’t happen, wait a little bit more.
Dream about it.
Sometimes dreaming about it is better than actually having it.
“I was drawn to all the wrong things: I liked to drink, I was lazy, I didn’t have a god, politics, ideas, ideals. I was settled into nothingness; a kind of non-being, and I accepted it. I didn’t make for an interesting person. I didn’t want to be interesting, it was too hard. What I really wanted was only a soft, hazy space to live in, and to be left alone.” ― Charles Bukowski.